The Jamisonian

Worst of the worst: the passive aggressive gene.

2012-02-02T08:52:00.000-05:00

Found this article. Interesting. So glad I was never raised around a passive aggressive. I never even knew what one was until my late 20's!

Passive aggressive: superficially cooperative but motivated by retribution; stubborn, un-coach-able, use their intelligence to excuse and justify their behavior, and they detest anyone more competent than themselves.

Then, there are the passive-aggressive bullies. Passive-aggressive bullies do things that at first glance, don’t appear to have hidden agendas. They often appear to be friendly gestures to on-lookers or even just normal interactions. They subtly hide their anger with what can appear on the surface to be normal behavior. Passive-aggressive behaviors are a powerful mind game and a form of emotional abuse.

Some of the traits of passive-aggressive behavior include:

Never expressing anger (or at least on the outside). They may have been taught as a child that anger was wrong. So instead of talking about it with you, they bottle it up and then subtly get you back by assigning crappy tasks to you or not replying back to an email.

Never taking responsibility for their actions. There is no such thing as shared responsibility in their book. There is a source for whatever the problem is- and it’s never them!

Never remembering. Things and events important to you will never be acknowledged. Finally open up and share something important about your life? You may feel really hurt that they don’t even acknowledge or remember it.

Never having their words and their actions line up. Someone’s actions most of the time add up with their words. In passive-aggressive people, their actions speak louder than their words.

Never being a team. Passive-aggressive people rarely admit how much of an integral force you are in their lives. While they do rely on you to help them get the job done more than they really want to admit, they can often have a time delegating because they can’t trust others.

Always being a martyr. These individuals tend to think that no matter what happens to them at home, at work, or with friends, the world is out to get them. There is never a coincidence. There is never an accident or oversight. Anything that upsets them was carefully planned to their utter discomfort.

Rumor has it that it's genetic.

Ugh, the kingcraft of a meritless crown.

2012-02-02T00:04:00.002-05:00

Take all the things that I've said that he stole
Put 'em in a sack
Swing 'em over my shoulder
Turn on my heels
Step out of this sight
Try to live in a lovelier light

(Her face at the end is just the most fantastic thing.)

Oh well, he's had it.

2012-02-01T23:46:00.000-05:00

RIP Don Cornelius!

2012-02-01T22:58:00.001-05:00

Just for me.

2012-01-31T22:56:00.001-05:00

Since I'm sure about only 2-3 people only look at my blog occasionally anymore, I will no longer self-edit. Starting with this. It cracked ME up.

Oh, George Michael.

2012-01-31T22:43:00.004-05:00

I'd love to go here.

2012-01-29T10:22:00.001-05:00

Castle Lichtenstein near Reutlingen, Germany.

So happy you are so close.

2012-01-29T02:39:00.002-05:00

My man.

2012-01-29T01:19:00.002-05:00

Closing in on watching every "Alfred Hitchcock Presents..." and loving it.

In dreams.

2012-01-28T22:23:00.000-05:00

The only cute pug I have ever seen.

2012-01-27T17:07:00.002-05:00

Whoa whoa whoa. What is this and how do I get it?

2012-01-27T16:56:00.000-05:00

I command you!

2012-01-20T14:30:00.002-05:00

Click on this LINK!

OMG.

Lil Twitches.

2012-01-20T14:28:00.001-05:00

Wow. An all nighter. I'm so healthy!

2012-01-19T02:49:00.002-05:00

But then what?

2012-01-19T02:31:00.002-05:00

For the kids: Archive this!

2012-01-16T02:20:00.002-05:00

This what dreams in the 80's were like...

You are welcome.

Everything is fine.

2012-01-15T02:45:00.000-05:00

...in heaven.

Sleepy Saturday.

2012-01-14T12:33:00.002-05:00

Someone. Just once.

2012-01-14T01:54:00.002-05:00

Breathless.

2012-01-14T01:30:00.000-05:00

This article left me speechless and stunned for so, so, so many reasons. And I'm glad I'm not crazy for not understanding, being suspiscious of "Blue Nights." But besides that, Didion, yes, she speaks to us. Or did.

http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/01/the-autumn-of-joan-didion/8851/

I would give almost anything for this to happen to me.

2012-01-12T23:52:00.000-05:00

Another semester of kids who ain't hearin' it.

2012-01-12T23:49:00.003-05:00

If I had my OWN Tigerbeat...

2012-01-06T13:51:00.002-05:00

I saw a rainbow on New Years Day!

2012-01-03T16:27:00.002-05:00

I hope it's a good sign.

See!?

2012-01-02T23:20:00.000-05:00

Puppies still 100% make me happy.

2012-01-02T23:19:00.002-05:00

Pumped up about everything!

Now I know.

2012-01-02T00:45:00.002-05:00

New Years Day on the Lost Highway.

2012-01-01T23:35:00.000-05:00

Walked along the abandoned portion of the PA Turnpike until I got scared. But will go back for the tunnels!

Is it over yet?

2011-12-31T16:50:00.002-05:00

Poof. Heart Exploded.

2011-12-29T21:15:00.001-05:00

Gotta love her.

2011-12-28T11:13:00.001-05:00

Papa opening his Christmas gift.

2011-12-25T14:01:00.003-05:00

I got him an Obama punching bag :)

Jason at Hawk Mountain.

2011-12-24T17:52:00.000-05:00

Best Arehart Christmas Yet, So...

2011-12-24T16:52:00.002-05:00

Here it comes... the worst time of year.

2011-12-21T10:39:00.000-05:00

Godspeed 2012!

Squeal!

2011-12-21T10:28:00.001-05:00

...and to come out peacefully.

2011-12-20T03:16:00.002-05:00

All the time.

2011-12-20T03:06:00.002-05:00

I sing this song, randomly, all the time. Upon Googling, I found this video. Diana Ross really used to be bad ass. It's true.

MJ Nostalgia. One of my favorites.

2011-12-18T20:03:00.001-05:00

Favorite internet pic of all time.

2011-12-17T01:10:00.002-05:00

I don't remember which one of my friends got this image on a postcard, but they can attest to me loving this photo since the early 2000's.

The way out.

2011-12-16T01:17:00.002-05:00

Puppy travels. OMG!

2011-12-15T22:47:00.000-05:00

Dreamhouse: Fortress of Solitude.

2011-12-15T02:58:00.000-05:00

However, I'd be scared shit-less at night!

Puddins.

2011-12-15T02:54:00.002-05:00

Why I can do what I want.

2011-12-14T22:51:00.002-05:00

Catbird.

2011-12-11T16:36:00.000-05:00

The patriarch of the Arehart clan: Catbird Arehart, my great grandfather. I wish I could have met him.

There is now one.

2011-12-11T16:34:00.000-05:00

To my knowledge, this is the only photo in existence of my grandma and grandpa together in a photo (they divorced a million years before I was born). Not only that, but it completely explains/confirms so many things I've always thought/wandered.

Nevertheless, this is where I come from.

Cutest reindeer of all.

2011-12-09T18:52:00.000-05:00

Thank you thank you thank you.

2011-12-09T00:30:00.002-05:00

I love you, Morris.

2011-12-06T23:13:00.002-05:00

Serenity NOW.

2011-12-04T18:50:00.002-05:00

Clover & Santa outtakes.

2011-12-04T11:06:00.002-05:00

My lil baby visited Santa today!

2011-12-03T18:44:00.000-05:00

WANT.

2011-11-28T22:57:00.001-05:00

Yesss.

2011-11-27T15:13:00.002-05:00

Bunneh makeover.

2011-11-27T15:11:00.002-05:00

Baby Corgi to the rescue!

2011-11-26T02:53:00.000-05:00

Andre, it's time to go.

2011-11-26T02:41:00.000-05:00

The tip of the iceberg.

2011-11-23T12:59:00.002-05:00

Oh, little Sally.

2011-11-21T20:19:00.000-05:00

Forbidden love.

2011-11-19T12:09:00.001-05:00

Lovin it.

2011-11-18T19:06:00.003-05:00

Sweetheart.

2011-11-18T18:53:00.000-05:00

Is the semester over yet?

2011-11-18T01:33:00.002-05:00

Cute kid!

2011-11-17T07:37:00.002-05:00

Girl, I mean baby, has the same effect on me.

2011-11-12T01:10:00.001-05:00

Punkin Chunkin 2011.

2011-11-11T16:09:00.000-05:00

What are YOU looking at? Get outta here.

2011-11-10T13:15:00.000-05:00

Tis the season.

2011-11-10T00:00:00.002-05:00

Doing it.

2011-11-07T23:13:00.003-05:00

So fell upon this in the LNC Sunday News.

2011-10-31T23:19:00.002-04:00

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C'mon cuteness, get me through this.

2011-10-29T17:33:00.000-04:00

Love it.

2011-10-29T00:59:00.000-04:00

Can't put this book down.

2011-10-27T20:14:00.000-04:00

Old times.

2011-10-27T03:26:00.002-04:00

October VHS madness

2011-10-24T18:39:00.002-04:00

Aww yeah.

2011-10-22T13:59:00.000-04:00

Truth machine.

2011-10-22T00:58:00.001-04:00

MY IDOL.

Porch thoughts.

2011-10-20T01:37:00.000-04:00

I wonder: are the careers we chose, our professional lives, the opposite of what we want in our personal lives? Does a bartender when at home wish for nothing more than to be tended to? Does a photographer wish to be idolized, the center of attention when at home? Does a teacher, after hours, want nothing more than to be taught?

Ah, porch thoughts.

I don't care, I totally love this song.

2011-10-20T01:08:00.002-04:00

A dime a dozen.

2011-10-19T01:27:00.000-04:00

Sure I'm over myself, Atwood.

2011-10-19T01:18:00.002-04:00

A Twilight Zone to break you heart.

2011-10-16T23:04:00.002-04:00

Different species.

2011-10-16T23:00:00.000-04:00

Falling hard and fast.

2011-10-13T02:36:00.002-04:00

Some of my favorite things!

2011-10-12T21:56:00.000-04:00

Freud says I'm perfectly normal and happy.

2011-10-11T22:35:00.002-04:00

How in the hell do you get into these things?

2011-10-11T01:03:00.002-04:00

Stop the presses.

2011-10-11T00:54:00.000-04:00

A screenshot of my favorite Hammer film of ALL TIME appeared on the internets. ohmyogdmhmygod.

Rhapsody.

2011-10-07T01:48:00.002-04:00

Still creeps me out.

2011-10-05T23:22:00.001-04:00

Only a woman can break Rob Swanson.

2011-10-05T20:14:00.002-04:00

Anais Nin has the best quotes. Ever. I've looked.

2011-10-03T00:35:00.000-04:00

MAURY. Don't tell her. Shhh.

2011-10-02T02:38:00.000-04:00

The bad seed.

2011-10-02T01:22:00.002-04:00

Thatta boy. Get in there.

2011-10-02T01:06:00.000-04:00

I miss the idea of you.

2011-10-02T00:57:00.000-04:00

Flattery.

2011-09-30T20:04:00.002-04:00

So obvious! And so adorable...

2011-09-29T02:09:00.002-04:00